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It's February now. One month has passed now comes another one.
Have you set your goal for this month?
I'm trying to do one this February, after reading an email from a fellow blogger. I love to read emails anyway. Especially the ones with personal touches, not just business emails.
I never set any specific goals for myself before. But today, I read the email and I'm touched with it and I hit reply button and I realized I had made a goal set.
I know it sounds weird but sometimes I need extra push from other people to make me a better person.
Okay. Let's see what my goals are for this month.
My first goal is to be more patient to my sons. Ah, this is every mom's dream, I guess. Many of them have succeeded, many others haven't. I'm in the second group of moms.
I have three sons. This year they will be 10, 9 and 2 years old.
For my first and second son, Mr. Inventor and Mr. Professor, I need to be more calm to them.
They are now in a phase where friends are matters. They start to listen more to their friends and peers.
Related article: A Good Friend of Theirs
I'm afraid I will lose my spot in their hearts if I can't stay in theirs for good.
I'm worried they will stop listening to me if I can't be their friends. Talk like their friends, think like their friends and do like theirs friends.
Do you, parents, feel the same too?
I know I can't talk to them about PUBG or BlackPink or any other thing, but I know I can listen to them.
My biggest problem is I always love to tell them what to do. I even told them what to think and what to not think!
Crazy, huh?
Now I have to stop myself doing that. I know I won't let them play dangerous games or spend time on doing less valuable stuffs, but I NEED to do it in a better way.
Instead of telling them, I should pretend to be them and persuade them to do what they should do as muslim boys.
I read books about it, from how to be a good parent, how life in childhood may affect someone's love life in the future.
I read a lot. Now it's time for me to practice it.
It's hard, isn't it? But, if I give up, then who else will do this?
My second goal is to get back to my routine Quran memorization.
Last December was really a bad month for my Quran memorization. We had holidays and that way I spent less time to do it.
And January went worse. I know, when I stopped then it would get harder to start again.
I'm now about 8 verses left behind my colleguas in a Whatss App group called 'one week two verses' group.
It's Friday now and every Friday I have to report my progress on memorizing. And it's been weeks I made no progress! What a shame! Astaghfirullah.
Well, those are my goals for this February. I really, really hope I can make them come true.
Step by step, with duas, I have to start to reach the goals now.
What about you? What are your February goals?
I particularly love the ‘two verses a week’ group idea! Might try it myself sometime, In’Sha’Allah! Before I memorise more, I strongly feel I need to revise what I’ve learnt already, astaghfirullah, it’s awful but you’re right, recognising what you need to do is one thing, putting the effort in is another!
ReplyDeleteI’m a new mum of a lil 7months old and still adjusting to this ‘motherhood’ thing but being the eldest of 8 siblings alhamdulilah, I admire your acknowledgment that friends are very central in a child’s life growing up and being your childs friend is very important to an extent too, so that they don’t feel lectured.
Barakallahu fiik, sis. Being a new mom is not easy physically and mentally.
DeleteI pray for you that you can run your new status as a mother well.
I'm glad you loved the idea of 'two verses a week' memorization. We started with 'one verse one week' earlier with sural Al-Mulk.
It went well and all the members who succeeded in completing the memorization could continue to next surah.