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Ten Years of Togetherness


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Ten years of togetherness. Yes, this date 10 years ago was my wedding date. I was 31 at the moment and my husband was 32. Ten years after that, alhamdulillah we are still together.

Ten years, is not a short time, yet not a long time in life. When I was 10, I was able to do many things. For my 10th wedding anniversary? I guess we've been through many, many ups and downs.

The toughest part in marriage actually is how to cope with your partner. I believe that. The first week of marriage is the sweetest time of your life. Many surprises come to you as you are a new Mrs/Mr.

After that you will have to adapt to your real life again. Back to work or move to your partner's place, say goodbye to your hometown (I feel you), etc. In short, life of marriage begins right after week 2.

Weeks after weeks, months after months then years after years. Oh, God, I thank You so much for this wonderful journey called marriage. I become a new person as there are boys who call me mama. Our 1st anniversary present was our first son. A year later, there came our second son. Our life was complete and become more complete now with the presence of our third son.

We have many dreams that aren't come true yet, I admit. Buying a house is the biggest achievement we haven't met up to today. Hope it will come true soon.

Our sons' education is also our biggest concern. Teach them, tell them, guide them to be better persons in iman is not an easy task but I believe it is very possible to do.

Having a daughter? It is not on the list. I feel having these three guards are enough 😄 . I'm 41 now, anyway.

A friend told me on my wedding day 10 years ago, "You should never do it twice." All she meant was this marriage has to be my only one. I agree with her.

What I so grateful about is the love we grow from time to time. It is not a fairy tale love, it is a real love when you might feel hurt or dissatisfied sometimes but the pledge you've made make you turn back to your partner again. We learn and through the test together.

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I hope and pray this first 10 years will be a better foundation for us. I hope and pray we'll still be together for the 20th, 30th, 40th, 50th anniversary. Till Allah do us part by death.

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