Monday, 19 June 2017

My Second Eid El-Fitr Away From Home

June 19, 2017 4 Comments
This is my second Eid El-Fitr away from home. How do I feel? Sad. Yes, ofcourse. I won't get the chance to see my big family in Jogja. All I can do is just call them or chat with them via WhatsApp Group. Alhamdulillah, technology has helped us a lot. I just can't imagine what it would be like when people had to have Eid El-Fitr away from home in the past when communivation technology hasn't gone this advanced.
The reason why I can't go home on this Eid El-Fitr is because I have just had a baby this Ramadan. My baby boy is too young to travel and I won't take any risk of bringing a baby on a hard traffic. No, no. He's too weak and fragile. It's better for us to stay here in Madiun and wait for a better chance to visit my home town. Moreover, Madiun, eventhough it's a small town , is where my in-law big family's hometown. So, there will be great celebration here as well.
My first Eid El-Fitr away from home had the similar reason with the second one. It was when I just had my second son. The difference is my first Eid El-Fitr away from home happened when my family and I lived in Tangerang Selatan, so, both my husband and I were away from our hometowns.

What to do when having Eid El-Fitr away from home?

Just enjoy the celebration with the neighbours and the closest family members. Think of the different experience we will have and be grateful to what God has Given us may help us relieve the feeling of missing.
It's not that bad celebrating Eid El-Fitr away from home. I believe there will be many new things we can find to enrich our lives. And that's worth doing, I guess.
So, guys, have you experienced celebrating Eid El-Fitr away from home?


This is the 9th blogging collaboration with Annisa Nurjannah
This bi-weekly theme is Eid El Fitr
Read Annisa's post Experiencing Two Different Eid Al Fitr Celebrations

Friday, 9 June 2017

My Sons Ramadan Fasting After Day One

June 09, 2017 0 Comments
Here is Ramadan, the month of fasting. We, muslims, embrace it happily. And so are my sons. They start to fast for a whole day this Ramadan. They are 7 and 8 now, so I think it's the best time to encourage them to fast more seriously.
First of Ramadan 1438 H was a success. Eventhough my elder son broke his fasting one hour after Zuhur salah, but it was ok for me because he decided to continue fasting after that. All of those struggles and drama can be read here: My Sons and Their First Day of Ramadan
Second Day of Ramadan
My husband and I didn't expect something better than the day before. We just continued encouraging our sons, woke them up for suhoor and supported their fasting.
On the second day, it was Sunday actually, we stayed for the whole day at my husband's office which is actually his family's house. My sons love to stay there due to its wifi connection. Yes, we let them entertaining themselves by playing games, watching videos and things like that. As they had some fun, I blogged and my husband did his overtime work.
The day went smoothly until just before noon, my second son started to ask for some drink.

"Mommy, I'm thirsty," he said.

"No, you can't have some drink. You are fasting, aren't you?" I reminded him.

He nodded sadly. Then I got a great idea.

"Why don't you have a shower before Zuhur salah? You will be fresher."

My son looked happy and he did what I told him. Then my first son came to join him to have a shower.
Alhamdulillah, everything went well after that. No grumbling, no complaining. And you know what? They made it to the iftar time! Allah is Great!
Third Day of Ramadan
This day was special because my sons would spend their whole day at school. There was a Ramadan activity called 'Pondok Ramadan' where students learn more religious activity with their teachers.

They did salah, recited and read the Holy Quran, watched Islamic movie, made some crafts and many more activities. They had iftar at school as well.
That day, there were no drama at all. And they succeeded in fasting for a whole day. Alhamdulillah.
Fourth Day of Ramadan
After the two successful consecutive days, I felt less worry about my sons and their fasting. I once thought that that day would be as successful as the day before. But, I was wrong. My second son who used to be a more discipline person than my first son turned into someone else. He told me that he had hungry already at 8 in the morning. You what, Son?
"I'm hungry," he said.

"It's only 8 in the morning," I answered him.
Unfortunately, at 10 my assistant came to clean the house. She brought the meal for iftar with her. My second son asked what she had brought and opened the pot lid.

"Yummy..." he said.
I need to tell you one thing first, due to my pregnancy, I didn't cook for my family. I couldn't stand with any smell came from onion and garlic. So, I paid somebody to cook for me. Then my assistant brought the cooked meal everyday for my family and I. And that was where the iftar meal came from.
Without any doubt, when Zuhur salah approached, my second son cooked rice for himself. He prepared his meal and had his 'iftar' right after Zuhur adhan. And his brother followed his step happily.
What a day. I said to myself. Yes, I understood they might be tired due to their activities the day before at school. But, I also concerned about their willing to continue fasting. However, I needed to tell them that what they had done was something not right. My husband did the same thing when he got home from his work.
Alhamdulillah, my sons could accept our arguments and promised us to do better next time. And they keep their promise. Although not everyday is a successful day but at least they have tried.
I know they still need to work hard but I believe they will be better and better in the future.

Monday, 5 June 2017

What School Reunion Means To Me

June 05, 2017 0 Comments


School reunion? What a very interesting phrase to say. What comes in my imagination when heard about this is my old school, my old friends and teachers. The sweet memories come together with it. School reunion is indeed powerful to make me looking back to my younger years.

I have left my college life for 16 years. Yes, I graduated from college in 2001. You can count my age now, haha... Yes, I'm 40 now, not young anymore, but not too old to enjoy life either. Forty is good. And having old good friends is good.

So, what school reunion means to me? The first thing I felt is a blessing. I feel I'm blessed that God is still giving me the chance to live. I have some friends, whether my high school or college friends who had already passed away. I also have friends whom husband/wife had passed away. At the same age as mine, I think it's hard. I have a friend whose husband passed away when she was 33. Oh, My God. Faith is always something man can't predict about. So, I'm blessed with the age Allah has given me.

Read about Grateful here

The second thing comes to my mind about school reunion is how valuable friendship is. Some months ago my old friends from college raised a donation for one of our friend. The friend who we donated is suffering from kidney failure that forces her to always undergo hemodialysis. Oh, I can't think about her condition, it must be bad while she has two kids. Raising kids in such condition is hard.

However, above those benefits , there are also some things to be considered while attending school reunion. First, it's about the past. Memories from the past, especially bad ones, shouldn't be exposed. Whether it's among friends or bad memories with teachers. Secondly, it's the gossip. After not seeing each other fro so long, people tend to talk about each other's appearances. Just don't try to put ourselves into trouble by talking about gossips around our friends. Everybody has her/his own life, which may be good or bad. We don't have the right to judge other people's life.

Well, guys, that's all I can tell you about what school reunion means to me. Have you attend any school reunion? How does it feel for you?

This is the 8th blogging collaboration with Annisa Nurjannah
This bi-weekly theme is: School Reunion
Read Annisa's post Reunion and Me